French Braid

 by Anne Tyler

Pg. 2344"They would start with two skeins of hair high up near her temples, very skinny and tight, ad then join in with two thicker braids lower down".

"Oh, a French Braid", Greta said.

"That's it.  And then when she undid them her hair would still be in ripples, little left over squiggles for hours and hours afterward"...

"Well", David said, "that's how families work too.  You think you're free of them, but you're never reall free; the ripples are crimpled in forever".

This is the story of the Garrett family over several generations.  The book is a true picture of a family that interacts but doesn't really connect.  There are the "good" ones and the "bad" (unconventional) ones.  There are memories and jealousies and a lot unspoken.  The book covers several families and generations.

The matriarch of the family was never a good mother, she preferred painting to looking after her kids.  After her last child moved out she gradually moved to a "studio" to paint and gradually moved over her clothes and other items.  She never divorced her husband, they never talked about it, and the kids did not talk or ask her about this arrangement.  One of her granddaughters likes to paint and joins her grandmother in the studio to paint one afternoon a week.  The gradmother takes her granddaughter to New York one day to see an exhibit of one of her artist friends.  The grandmother dies on the train ride home.

The author does a great job of portraying a somewhat disfunctional family.  They don't communicate regularly or well.  Members have a habit of showing up with a fiancee or going off and getting married and then telling the family.  Family members are often puzzled by behavior of other family members, for example the brother who marries and older woman.  He had announced one day he was bringing someone when he came to visit and arrived with the woman and her young daughter.  Later the woman contacts the family to say that they had gotten married.  Near the end of the book the character David, tells his wife that he believes his father didn't like him.  What a pain to have carried.  His father did not treat him well.  The family was surprised that he did not keep in touch when he went away to college.  No surprise.

The book did a very sensitive, insightful job of portraying the disfunctional family. The book is very poignant at times, for example one of the family members is afraid to tell the family that he is gay.  His lover tells him... they know.....

This author has written more than 20 books.  I was surprised to learn this is the first book of hers I have read.  She is often on the best seller list and has won the pulitzer for a previous book.